You’re Not Confused — You’re Overexposed to Too Many Perspectives
“Maybe it’s your inner child.” “Or you’re just avoidant.” “No, this looks like anxious attachment.” “Have you tried regulating your nervous system?” “Or maybe you’re just not with the right person.” “Or maybe you’re the problem.” At some point, it all starts blending together. You’re not lacking awareness. If anything, you have too much of it. You’ve heard enough explanations to understand yourself from ten different angles, but instead of feeling clearer, you feel more confused than before. Every perspective makes sense for a moment, and then another one replaces it. And somewhere in between all of that, you lose track of what actually feels true for you. This isn’t confusion. It’s cognitive overload. Most people assume confusion means they don’t understand themselves enough. But what if the opposite is happening? You’ve been exposed to too many interpretations, too many frameworks, too many ways of explaining the same feeling. Each one offers a version of truth, but none of the...
